Trusting God Through the Challenges of Marriage Restoration

What do your prayers look like?

Pray using faithful prayers over your marriage.

Trusting God to restore your marriage is one of the most challenging yet rewarding journeys a wife can take. It requires more than just words—it demands a daily choice to let go of fear and control and lean into the promises of a faithful God. But let’s be honest, trusting God isn’t easy. It’s messy, emotional, and often feels impossible when you’re in the middle of heartache.

Your husband has moved out, saying he needs space, and you’re left feeling abandoned, desperate to fix things. Every instinct tells you to fight, to persuade him to come back, to find a way to make things work. You spend days texting him, trying to figure out what went wrong, but his heart remains distant. It’s in this moment, when everything feels out of control, that God whispers, “Trust Me.” True trust doesn’t come naturally here. It’s a battle to surrender the outcome to God and admit that His plan might look different from your own.

Trust is an act of faith, a decision to believe that God’s plans are greater than ours. It doesn’t mean the road will be easy or that the outcome will align with our desires, but it does mean we can rest in the assurance that He is in control. One of the biggest challenges women face is letting go of the need to control their marriage. There’s a fear of the unknown. What if my husband never changes? What if my marriage doesn’t survive? That keeps us clinging tightly to our plans, even when those plans drain us emotionally and spiritually.

In my years of working with women, I’ve seen this struggle again and again. I’ve seen women exhaust themselves trying to fix their marriages on their own, only to come to a place of surrender out of sheer desperation. But here’s the beauty of trust: the moment we release control and put our faith in God, we make room for Him to work. Trust doesn’t mean being passive; it means actively believing that God is working, even when we don’t see it.

When it comes to trusting God in your marriage, it’s a process, not a one-time decision. It requires consistent, intentional effort. Start small. Begin your mornings with a simple prayer: “Lord, I surrender my marriage to You today. Teach me to trust Your plan.” Meditate on Scriptures like Romans 8:28: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.” Speak these truths over your heart when fear and doubt creep in.

Sometimes, trust means stepping back and focusing on your relationship with God instead of trying to fix your husband. One woman I worked with had been separated from her husband for months. She was consumed with trying to bring him back, apologizing, bargaining, doing everything she could think of to make him change. Eventually, she realized she was exhausting herself and pushing him further away. She decided to stop striving and instead focus on her faith journey. She prayed for her husband daily but released the need to control his choices. As she grew stronger in her relationship with God, her peace became evident, and her husband began to notice. While their journey of reconciliation wasn’t immediate or easy, the shift in her heart allowed God to move in ways she hadn’t imagined.

Trust is also about recognizing that your husband isn’t your Savior; God is. It’s tempting to place all your hopes, fears, and expectations on your spouse, but no human can bear that weight. When you trust God, you release your husband from the impossible task of fulfilling your every need and allow God to take His rightful place in your heart.

How do I trust You Father?

I surrender it all to you…

If you’re reading this and thinking, “I’m not sure I know how to trust God like this,” know that you’re not alone. Trusting Him is a journey, and every step you take, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction. The good news is that God is patient with us. He doesn’t expect perfection; He simply asks for a willing heart.

Take a moment today to ask yourself: What am I holding onto that I need to release to God? What fears are keeping me from trusting Him fully? Remember, your trust in God doesn’t just impact your marriage, it transforms your heart and your faith. It allows you to find peace in uncertainty and opens the door for God’s restoration in ways you never expected.

Ladies, trusting God is not easy, but it is worth it. When you place your marriage and your heart in His hands, you align yourself with His will and make room for His incredible plans to unfold. Keep praying, keep surrendering, and keep trusting. God is faithful, and He has the final say.

To read more blogs like this, visit my website HerHopeChristianCounselingSolutions.com. You can also contact me directly at herhopeccs@gmail.com—I’d love to hear your thoughts and connect with you. If you’re interested in taking a step of faith and deepening your journey, don’t miss my upcoming event, Standing in the Gap for Wives on the Front Line Women’s Conference, happening on May 24th. You can register now by visiting the conference page on my website.

Let’s stand boldly together in prayer and trust as wives committed to God’s calling.

Nancy Phillips

Christian Coach and Counselor